Do not be an Angry Stubborn Subject, instead be a Strategic Person Oriented toward Rejecting Trouble
Many people, some more than others, may have found
themselves interacting in ways that instead of taking them to their desired
outcome have lead them further away from it. The man standing at the cash register of
the pharmacy, trying to buy nose drops, rushing to get to work on time, and having to wait on the only line open at the moment, while the cashier has stepped out to check a price on an unmarked item, may experience a heighten level of frustration. His response
may turn into a shouting match with the cashier upon his return, or it will result in contemplating more strategic alternatives: a) call the office ant tell them he will be
running a few minutes late, b) leave the drops and get them at another pharmacy, c) suggest to the cashier that it would be really helpful to all the people in the line if he could request to open another register. In the same way the wife frustrated with her husband’s lack of appreciation as she rushed to get dinner ready after a hard day of work and
feeling sick, may almost instinctively just yell at him and call him all sorts
of names for being “inconsiderate and insensitive”, or she will describe to him,
how she feels and what she needs from him in that moment.
The reality is that anger, rarely solves any problems if any at all. While the lion in the jungle may need to get angry and bite the head off the other lion competing for his pray, in everyday life, humans do not need to bite the head off of a one another, in order to attain what they want and is in harmony with the rest of the world. Yet fueled by the thinking that if he let the cashier get away with being slow, or her husband be lazy, the whole
world would come crumbling on them and it could only go down from there, the man
and the woman in the previous example acted angrily.
Given the information available to them and the situation at hand they could have not have done any better. Yet when we learn how to clear out those things that may be pushing us to anger and accept the strategist in ourselves, the one whose emotions occur in the here and now for an immediate purpose, anger does not remain. Instead we live purpose driven lives where emotions serve a motivating and strategic fuel to our actions.
Many people, some more than others, may have found
themselves interacting in ways that instead of taking them to their desired
outcome have lead them further away from it. The man standing at the cash register of
the pharmacy, trying to buy nose drops, rushing to get to work on time, and having to wait on the only line open at the moment, while the cashier has stepped out to check a price on an unmarked item, may experience a heighten level of frustration. His response
may turn into a shouting match with the cashier upon his return, or it will result in contemplating more strategic alternatives: a) call the office ant tell them he will be
running a few minutes late, b) leave the drops and get them at another pharmacy, c) suggest to the cashier that it would be really helpful to all the people in the line if he could request to open another register. In the same way the wife frustrated with her husband’s lack of appreciation as she rushed to get dinner ready after a hard day of work and
feeling sick, may almost instinctively just yell at him and call him all sorts
of names for being “inconsiderate and insensitive”, or she will describe to him,
how she feels and what she needs from him in that moment.
The reality is that anger, rarely solves any problems if any at all. While the lion in the jungle may need to get angry and bite the head off the other lion competing for his pray, in everyday life, humans do not need to bite the head off of a one another, in order to attain what they want and is in harmony with the rest of the world. Yet fueled by the thinking that if he let the cashier get away with being slow, or her husband be lazy, the whole
world would come crumbling on them and it could only go down from there, the man
and the woman in the previous example acted angrily.
Given the information available to them and the situation at hand they could have not have done any better. Yet when we learn how to clear out those things that may be pushing us to anger and accept the strategist in ourselves, the one whose emotions occur in the here and now for an immediate purpose, anger does not remain. Instead we live purpose driven lives where emotions serve a motivating and strategic fuel to our actions.
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