Many times, when we fight we engage in heated, often aggressive exchanges that end up escalating out of control, soon to realize that we have forgotten what we were fighting for in the first place. Fighting becomes a stress relief mechanism rather than a vehicle to solve a problem. This is especially true when we are not physiologically ready to solve problems effectively. When we are Hungry, Euphoric, Anxious, Rushing or Tired our sympathetic nervous system is aroused and ready for action, thus our rational minds are more likely to misrepresent a disagreement as an aggression or a threat and react to it in ways that are, at the very least, ineffective or inappropriate, and, at the very worst, combative and aggressive.
When problems arise although solutions may be needed promptly, it may be most effective to assign a specific meeting time, when we are more likely to be unbiased and less influenced by sympathetic reactions. Taking time out to let things cool down will most likely be a more advantageous course of action than to engage in interminable quarrels that can escalate without need. Next time instead of feeling evasive when asking for time out or dismissed when someone asks you for one, think of the advantages of avoiding unnecessary struggle.
When problems arise although solutions may be needed promptly, it may be most effective to assign a specific meeting time, when we are more likely to be unbiased and less influenced by sympathetic reactions. Taking time out to let things cool down will most likely be a more advantageous course of action than to engage in interminable quarrels that can escalate without need. Next time instead of feeling evasive when asking for time out or dismissed when someone asks you for one, think of the advantages of avoiding unnecessary struggle.
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